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  RIP Gwen

  by Joe Grundy in

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  i have just heard that s friend from an entirely different meaasge board died this evening after a brief spell in a hospice.. she was very proud of being welsh and of the language.

  she was firm in her traditional welsh chapel faith and i'm sure it helped her at the end.. cysga'n dawel, cariad.

  cwsg maen hedd, gwen fach, i'r golau.

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  Joe Grundy

  Sorry, broke board rules. Apologies. I don't know how to make the link 'clickable',
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  RIP Gwen

  by Joe Grundy in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have just heard that s friend from an entirely different meaasge board died this evening after a brief spell in a hospice.. she was very proud of being welsh and of the language.

  she was firm in her traditional welsh chapel faith and i'm sure it helped her at the end.. cysga'n dawel, cariad.

  cwsg maen hedd, gwen fach, i'r golau.

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  "Cysga'n dawel, cariad. Cwsg maen hedd, Gwen fach, i'r golau. Diolch am dy gwmni."

  Sorry. 'Sleep well, dear one. Sleep in peace, dear Gwen, in the light. Thank you for your company'.

  The link is to a Welsh hymn 'Gwahoddiad' or 'Invitation', alternatively 'Arglwydd dyma fi'. Beautiful, even if you don't believe it and a comfort to those who do.
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  RIP Gwen

  by Joe Grundy in

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  i have just heard that s friend from an entirely different meaasge board died this evening after a brief spell in a hospice.. she was very proud of being welsh and of the language.

  she was firm in her traditional welsh chapel faith and i'm sure it helped her at the end.. cysga'n dawel, cariad.

  cwsg maen hedd, gwen fach, i'r golau.

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  Joe Grundy

  I have just heard that s friend from an entirely different meaasge board died this evening after a brief spell in a hospice.

  She was very proud of being Welsh and of the language. She was firm in her traditional Welsh chapel faith and I'm sure it helped her at the end.

  Cysga'n dawel, cariad. Cwsg maen hedd, Gwen fach, i'r golau. Diolch am dy gwmni.

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=obf451VTXGM

  Perhaps here, of all places, we shouldn't forget what their faith means to some people.
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  Why are atheists so intent on scorning "believers"?

  by Chariklo in

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  2. friends

  until recently, i had never encountered this word "believers" used as it is being used on this board, to describe pejoratively a group of people.

  it's not clear to me whether they scorn all who have a faith of some sort.

  do they include buddhists, hindus, followers of the baha'i faith, followers of the cargo cult, native americans along with christians, or is it just christians who are honoured with this epithet?.

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  Joe Grundy

  Just for clarification, I am 'atheist' in that I do not believe in the existence of any gods or supernatural beings. Simple as that.
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  Why are atheists so intent on scorning "believers"?

  by Chariklo in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  until recently, i had never encountered this word "believers" used as it is being used on this board, to describe pejoratively a group of people.

  it's not clear to me whether they scorn all who have a faith of some sort.

  do they include buddhists, hindus, followers of the baha'i faith, followers of the cargo cult, native americans along with christians, or is it just christians who are honoured with this epithet?.

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  Joe Grundy

  I may regret posting this (I tend to stay away from this sort of stuff) but here goes.

  I never was a dub, and I am an atheist. I don't scorn anyone. If by 'believers' you mean 'believers in a religion or a deity/deities' I don't scorn them either. I respect their beliefs and their right to hold them, whatever those beliefs may be - they are all equally valid, whether it's a modern cult (like JWs) or an older more traditional religion such as a Thai prostitute lighting incense to Buddha on her way to work. I've known both and many others.

  Everyone is entitled to their own beliefs, but not everyone is entitled to their own facts.

  But, as someone with an enquiring mind, I am entitled to require anyone who wishes to foist their beliefs on me to justify them. That's my right, I think. AND, if their particular belief system imposes on people's lives in a way which causes damage, hurt and pain (and WTBTS surely does) and they seek to impose it on others I am even more entitled to challenge them and ask them to justify it. The more damage, the more impact, the more justification is required. Same for WTBTS as the Spanish Inquisition.

  If those proselytising for their religion hold themselves out as capable of being intellectually able to persuade converts (as JW publishers do) I am entitled to challenge and question. That is not scorn. If they seek out the vulnerable (as JWs do) I am entitled to challenge them on behalf of their vulnerable targets.

  To bring it to the nitty-gritty: I don't scorn JWs. I condemn the GB and the senior echelons because they are well aware what they're doing. For the average JW, I am sad (to say I feel pity would be condescending). For the religion itself, well it's just another relatively small doomsday cult and is of no consequence except for the damage it does to its adherents.

  This site has evolved into a support forum. It has tremendous resources for those (like me) seeking information. Some seekers really need support provided in a neutral way, with clear, honest information - and that's the best form of support for someone who is challenging the beliefs fed to them under duress.

  It is, of course, an open internet forum and anyone can post. I am sad (as a quasi-outsider) that we have this sort of question posed as a thread title with its assumptions. It's crap. By all means start a thread and ask for information, opinions, (civilised) argument if you wish. There are plenty of sites available for rabid arguments, and we've had our fair share of nutters and wind-up merchants here in my time. It would be a shame if this site was degenerated - I hope that it will remain a welcoming site for those JWs taking a tentative first step into the real world looking for answers.

  Just my view, and I appreciate that as a never was dub I am a bit of an outsider.
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  Why are atheists so intent on scorning "believers"?

  by Chariklo in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  until recently, i had never encountered this word "believers" used as it is being used on this board, to describe pejoratively a group of people.

  it's not clear to me whether they scorn all who have a faith of some sort.

  do they include buddhists, hindus, followers of the baha'i faith, followers of the cargo cult, native americans along with christians, or is it just christians who are honoured with this epithet?.

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  Joe Grundy

  "Geez, here we go again."

  Quite.
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  Personal Anthems

  by zed is dead in

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  i use music to motivate me, and focus on important things in life.

  i will share one song that helps me to motivate myself for positive change.

  please feel free to share yours.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rjwce4b0rka.

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  Joe Grundy

  Thank you!
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  Words that were really hard to hear...

  by NeverKnew in

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  last night, i listened to words that were really hard to hear.

  i'm not sure how much of the conversation i blocked out.. i intentionally initiated a conversation with a jw man that i've grown very fond of who has been talking about marriage next year as recently as last weekend (our anniversary weekend).

  we have had the conversation before, but i have to admit, i have a tough time listening and i find that i leave the conversations not believing what i'm hearing so therefore i can't seem to retain the details.

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  NeverKnew:

  If you love somebody, you love them. You don't give a rat's ass (or a dingo's kidney!) what anyone else thinks. You are prepared to make it work for the two of you come what may.

  If either party doesn't feel that, for whatever reason, it won't work.

  And that's the top and bottom of it, without having to take into account all the crazy JW stuff.

  Sounds like this guy is not for you, sorry.

  I wish you well.
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  Personal Anthems

  by zed is dead in

  1. social
  2. entertainment

  i use music to motivate me, and focus on important things in life.

  i will share one song that helps me to motivate myself for positive change.

  please feel free to share yours.. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rjwce4b0rka.

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  Joe Grundy

  Yesterday was the birthday of a Thai lady that I became engaged to while we were both living in Cyprus in 2008. Sadly, it didn't work out. But she remains the most beautiful woman that I have ever been in love with or have made love to.

  At one time we were in love and living on different continents. This still makes me cry a little:

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4rs9rCP_wpY&feature=related
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  Thinking of becoming a JW.

  by Kate82 in

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  2. medical

  hi,.

  i am new to here so please be bear with me.. i have always believed in god, but was never baptised, my parents wanted me to make up my own mind religon wise.. i am thinking of becoming a jw and am just needing some advice on how to do this, bible study and jw beliefs.

  also do jw say grace and how.. i am greatful of any help.. thanks.

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  Joe Grundy

  Dear Katie82

  I never was a JW - I view it from 'the outside'.

  The most important thing, I think, is for you to ask questions, lots of questions, and push until you get satisfactory, checkable, answers that satisfy you.

  One thing is for sure - if you 'join'the JWs in any sort of way, you will be discouraged from asking questions and any answers you get are unlikely to make any sort of rational sense.

  Best wishes.